Today was Ryan's funeral. It's funny how you can learn things about people after they are gone that you never knew in life. But I think that's the way that Ryan liked things. He told Karen and I once that he had "going out friends" and "work friends". Since school was "work", we were in the work category. For most of school Ryan wouldn't do social things with us, because that would breach that imaginary boundary that he had set up for us.
As life went on, he did would start to come to social things, but not always. He didn't want to muddy that line too much.
It's funny how Ryan kept things so compartmentalized in life. I always knew he loved sports, but I didn't know that he played hockey. I know that he loved music, but I didn't know that he played the trumpet. Apparently he played it very well - winning awards, joining regional groups, even tutoring grade 12's when he was in grade 9.
He was a passionate guy. Always seemly to be totally focused on the current task - even if the current task seemed to be multitasking. ;-) I seem to remember him saying that he had burned through a couple of pvr's because he'd watch / record 2 football games at once and when one game was in a break, he'd watch the other one. Because of his stories, I wanted to always rent our pvr rather than paying for it for when it inevitably burned out. We've never burned ours out. I guess I didn't put quite the same load on it as him.
You can see how he kept his life compartmentalized in his memorial page - it's either about programming, music, sports, or fun. Not much overlap in any one comment.
I'll miss his passion, his funny t-shirts, his laugh and the hidden secrets behind his eyes. You could seem them in the twinkle and his smile.
I'll miss my friend.
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