Advice for your wedding day and beyond...

Shortly before we got married a friend messaged us some "wedding day advice". I really liked it and I just wanted to capture it here rather than it being lost in the bowels of facebook.

I'm no expert on any one thing, but I am good at learning enough to get by... This is some advice that I have given everyone I know who has gotten married since I was enlightened by it.

You will find that on your wedding day, time goes 5x faster. You will be running from place to place for pictures, wedding, speeches (I hear there will be few.. good..hehe), visiting each table, and then cutting the cake - and suddenly the night is over and you 2 would not have spent more than 30 minutes together total. Seriously - your wedding day will be a blur.

My advice, which has been 3 years in the works is - take some quiet time together at some point during the reception and just look at each other. You don't have to speak, just look. Take a mental picture of how good the other looks, because chances are - you will be looking better that day than you ever have, and may ever look again.

Make a mental note of how happy you are at that moment. Your wedding day will be the best day of your life (until kids start popping out - which may be a while) - you will likely be as happy as you ever have been.

Once you have taken that time together and have committed everything to memory - carry on with the evening.

You will find over the rest of your lives together that marriage is not always "great" - there are arguments, disagreements - whatever. It's up & down over what should be the rest of your lives.

When you have a down time - remember what you had previously committed to memory. Jim - remember how beautiful Laura looked, and how you felt the first time you saw her in her wedding dress, and when you said "I do" and when SHE said "I do". Laura - same deal, substituting the dress for a tux/suit/whatever.

So many people forget about the good times when things get rough and would rather take the easy route out. Your wedding day will have been the best day EVER, so remember it and you will have a long & happy life together.

You guys are perfect together - don't forget that.

Kevin

ps/ future "best moments" include when Laura says "I'm pregnant", followed by the first ultrasound... and it goes up from there. ;)