Under promise, over deliver

One thing that I wished a lot of people did was to say what they are thinking. Sounds like a dumb request eh? Well, if you are not going to be able to make it out to see some friends, or you are not going to be able to get something done, just say so.

For getting things done, it's a lot better to not constantly have people's expectations let down. After a while, they will simply stop believing you. It's that simple.

People respect honesty. It's all part of managing expectations. If you at least tell them what you honestly think will be done, even if it's not the answer you think they want, in the long run it's better. It's short term pain for long term gain. Why don't more people see this? I think that they just take the easy road and are not looking far enough ahead.

Now, the questions that everyone should be asking themselves are: am I being honest / realistic with these people? If not, why??? Is this how I would like them to deal with me our roles were reversed?

If you keep on letting people down, they isolate you because they can't trust what you say.

That's probably the loop then I guess.... person A says what they think person B wants to hear so they will like them / not raise a conflict. Person A breaks promise with person B. Person B doesn't like person A and doesn't want to deal with them. Person A wonders why no one wants to deal with them. Person A wants to be liked. So when person A deals with person C, the make even more promises that they cannot keep because they think that's what person C wants to hear. Rinse, repeat.

Listening to: Underworld - Surfboy